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Aggie Wants to Know
By admin | July 17, 2008
Topic No. 1: Life After the Wedding - the Married Life.
What are the things you want them to know about life after the wedding?
Ha. I wouldnt tell. Bwahaha.
It’s a leap of faith. Every single day that both of us went through after the wedding was like a blur.
We stayed at our apartment and kept shuttling back and forth to my moms house. He was always on-shore for three years, so there was never a perfect timing for us to ‘adjust’ completely to each other as husband and wife. Knowing what needs to be known is still a work in progress. There were a lot of disagreements, petty fights and ‘leaving’ from one house to another. Calling it quits did come a lot of times. I wouldnt tell how many times bwahahaha. In short, it was CRAZY.
However, the thing called marriage withstood a lot of pressure and problems for the two of us. You can never know a person too much no matter how many decades you have been together, because as you can see — people change!
I feel annoyed most of the time. I feel like my so-called independence was thrown out of the window. Say babye time for yourself. Then 2 kids came along, who wouldnt ‘behave’ when there are 2 kids now who are keeping us busy…attention was diverted from fighting to the babies.
Later on I started to ask myself what in the world Did I ever get myself into? =)
Marriage, I still dont know what lies ahead. We are still starting to ‘build’ our relationship. When we went here, we became independent we started from scratch. We have no money to begin our family life together. We fought because another adjustment came. Ours was a LOVE-HATE relationship you see. There’s this flame that no matter how much we start to get on each others nerves again, time as it goes by, we start to learn our lesson. We become appreciative of all our efforts. Our setup now is so much different from before. We both worked from home. He never had overtime as our house was his office. Here, he is always OT. GRRR. Now its different we have to work on our schedule and activities for self and family. It’s a big adjustment I tell you. Can hardly keep my head above water… this is it. This is the real thing.
I think the important thing that we are missing here is ‘Acknowledgment’. Acknowledge when one of us did something wrong. It’s not so easy to say Im sorry I was wrong. It’s much easier to point finger and then what, do nothing. I can be a very forgiving person you know, just acknowledge and then im going to be fine. The battle lies in actually saying SORRY to one another. I found it easy before, but now, Im not sure. {Marriage Counselling, anyone???}
So this has become a diary. Sorry. =P
So for the last two weeks, Ive been calling him Housemate. Not until he fix his own schedule then he will remain a housemate to me.
Were still adjusting but almost there.
Topics: Life in general |
July 17th, 2008 at 11:19 am
Ay kaya naman pala. Pero alam mo super tibay kayo after nyo malampasan yan adjustment phase sa SG, dahil ikaw na nga nagsabi, wala kayong pagkukunan ng suporta kungdi kayong dalawa lang talaga